3 Ways To Address Your Fears As A Parent
Parenting comes with a unique experience for individuals. What we
experience with one child is different from another child.
Let’s take, for example, my kids. As a baby, my first child had a
hard time transcending from her baby food to more adult-like food. We had to
spend a lot on multi-vitamins and new diet regime but none seemed to work.
However, with my younger child, the journey has been different.
She will rather eat what other adults are eating than her baby.
Regardless of these differences we experience while parenting,
there is one thing that I can say we share in common.
“Our desire
to ensure that our kids live a better life than we do”. It is from this desire that our fears as parents arise.
The what-ifs start with our fears.
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What if our
kids don’t turn out as good as we imagine
·
What if our kids never reach their height
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What if we
can give our kids the life that we want for them
Like I to tell most parents what-ifs has never helped anyone. What
can help is how we navigate these fears to our benefit.
So how do we deal with the fears;
1.
Talk About It
Yes, you read that right. Talking is the best therapy for almost
anything. For anyone that has gone to see a therapist ever wondered why you do
most of the talking.
Talk about your fears with your partner, a mentor, your own parents
or other parents.
By talking, you will be able to validate that your fears are
normal and learn how to deal with them.
Talking about your fears of the future of your kids with other parents will provide you with the opportunity to learn from the experiences of others.
2.
Work On It
You have talked about it. The next thing you need to do is work on
it. So what is your biggest fear? Are you scared your child will end up as a dropout
just like you? What can you do to prevent this reoccurrence?
Now that is what you need to work on.
Are
you afraid that you might never be able to give your child the life you want
for them? What can you do to achieve this? This might mean taking up a new job,
applying for a grant, etc. Just about anything to get you moving.
3. Don’t Dwell On It
The worst thing you can do to yourself is to live in constant fear
of the future of your children.
This is the worst
thing you can do to yourself. Is to live in constant fear of the future of your
children.
Don’t sleep on it.
Don’t overthink it. You are not the only one on this boat. Thousands of parents
see traits in their kids that make them panic. This tends to make them
overreact.
They get overly protective or ignorant. They end up making more mistakes beyond what their fears were initially.
Dear parents, permit
me to say your fears are valid and they will pass if you keep working on them
What is your biggest
fear as a parent? Share it with us in the comments section.
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